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RealityShifters News - June 2005
Create Your Best Life!
Win-Win Reality Creation

Cynthia Sue LarsonCynthia Sue Larson with a friendly rock near the Felicita Growth Center

    "A true friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be going down."
    -- Robert Edwards
We can take manifestation and reality creation to the next level when we leave win-lose scenarios behind, and work exclusively with win-win approaches. The best negotiations in the world... the only ones with satisfactory long-term outcomes... are ones that conclude with win-win solutions for everyone involved. Negotiations are seldom required when there is an abundance of trust, since then it is understood that there is an intention that the best solution be reached for all concerned. The concept of "win-win" comes from game theory which is a branch of mathematics, operations research and economics that analyzes interactions with formalized incentive structures ("games"). The idea of win-win introduces a concept in which one individual's win does not necessarily mean that their opponents lose. While zero sum situations such as slicing a cake suggest there is only so much cake to go around, win-win thinking comes from a viewpoint that everyone's prosperity is entangled with everyone else's.

Even though the notion of win-win cooperation has been with us in the form of game theory for many years, most people don't get a chance to hone their win-win skills by playing games. When we play games that teach us how to succeed as we help others succeed, we gain powerful invaluable insights. I have such a strong preference for win-win games that I've been known to convert zero sum games, such as Monopoly, into win-win games through creative reinterpretation of the rules. My favorite win-win game is a two-player version of the classic Klondike solitaire card game, in which both players can play off of each others' stacks. What I have found after playing hundreds of hours of win-win games is that every time both players envision a win (which only happens when both players win), that game does end in a win. On the very few occasions when I've seen this win-win version of double Klondike solitaire end in a loss, it was clear that one player was focusing almost exclusively on looking out for their own self-interests, rather than keeping both players' interests in mind.

Since the key to success in win-win reality creation is trust, one of the best places to practice win-win thinking is with friends whom you can completely trust. You know who these friends are in your life, because you can envision them being every bit as happy, fulfilled, successful and prosperous as you wish to be. True friendship is something that makes a huge difference in peoples' lives. Those who have it know they have someone to cheer them on whether things are going well or poorly. Many people focus on which friends stick around when times are tough, but an equally good indicator of true friendship is a sense of which friends are supportive when things are going extremely well. This becomes a more important issue as you hone your own manifestation skills, and discover that your future's getting brighter all the time. Rather than surrounding yourself with people who are jealous of what you have, choose friends who delight in your joy and who savor your successes. These people are your inner circle of friends.

The concept of an inner circle of friends is one that I find to be quite helpful, as it gives me an idea of which people are genuinely happy for me, no matter how well I do. An inner circle of friends holds the space for my manifestation, so no matter how I am feeling or what is happening around me, there is a safety net of love under me which will catch me if I start to fall, and will lift me up higher than I could ever lift myself. This inner circle of friends establishes itself when I ask myself, "Which friends are thrilled to see me feeling ecstatic? Which friends see opportunities for me that I would have otherwise missed? Which friends share resources with me that I didn't even know they had, but that I dearly need?" If you look around and don't find many friends who currently match this description, keep asking these questions of the universe, and they will appear.

This month, realityshifters discussion list members took a poll about our favorite reality shift movies at:

    What's your favorite reality shifting film?

there is no spoona reality shifting moment in The Matrix

While there are other films featuring reality shifts in them, these were the films selected as being favorites by members of the realityshifters discussion list this past month. There are many more reality shifting films listed on the realityshifters web site at

lots of love,
Cynthia Sue Larson
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In This Issue:

(1) Spiritual Life Coaching
(2) Upcoming Events
(3) Intriguing Articles & Interviews
(4) Your Reality Shift Stories
(5) Reality Shifting Q & A
(6) Reality Shifters Award Winner
(7) Reviews that Shift Your Reality
(8) Join in the Discussion
(9) Noteworthy Web Sites & Ezines

(1) Spiritual Life Coaching
Cynthia Sue Larson

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      "Thank you so much for your insight.
      You are amazing - one in a gazillion."
      -- Susan L.

(2) Upcoming Events

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(3) Intriguing Articles & Interviews

Helping Skills
Every relationship has conflicts. However, conflicts do not have to end with someone losing and with both parties hating each other. Wise people are able to resolve disagreements with both parties satisfied and respecting each other.

Sliding Doors

Reality Shifting Films
What do movies like The Matrix, Frequency, Dark City, The Lathe of Heaven, Sliding Doors and Passion of Mind have in common? These films feature the reality shift phenomenon in their plots. I find it especially refreshing to see films that describe reality shifts close to the way I've experienced them myself, and I am grateful that reality shifts are being featured more often than ever in the movies!

(4) Your Reality Shift Stories

Kathryn Perry
Fort Worth, Texas

A few years back, I hosted a Reiki Healing Circle. As always, I lead the group into a meditation to set our intention and get us into harmony. This particular night a meditation about forgiveness and gratitude flowed through me. It was so beautiful that I know it was directly from the Universe to our little group. As I spoke, I opened my eyes to check on the group, and I couldn't believe what I saw! The people were turning into columns of bright white light, and then started blinking in and out. I could then see them in different forms, as little children or younger versions of themselves. Some changed shape completely as personas of past lives received healing and connected to forgiveness and gratitude. The meditation was only about 15 minutes long and my eyes were only opened less than a couple of minutes, but so much happened that it would take pages to describe it all. That night every person received a dramatic healing in their life; some physical, but mostly emotional and spiritual healing.

After the meditation, the participants reported their experiences and we discovered that their stories exactly matched how I had seen them. Since then I have used this meditation piece with every group I lead, and while some group experiences are more dramatic than others, all turn into the columns of light. Gosh this is good stuff! We are so fortunate to live in a time of enlightenment and to have a forum to tell our stories. Thanks Cynthia for your wonderful website and beautiful message!


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I did something last week which I found great fun! It was so effortless that I know anyone can do it if they have a relaxed mind, strong belief, trust in the universe, and a sense of fun. I was completely out of my contact lens saline solution with no other bottles as backup, but it was not convenient for me to go to the store at that time to get more. Plus, I needed solution to cleanse and add on the lenses to drive there anyway! I thought to myself "Why not create more", (just like the "fishes and the loaves" scenario where Jesus had only a small portion of fish and bread to feed a very large group. Yet, the limited portion kept duplicating or cloning itself to amply feed the crowd). I was a bit surprised, but thrilled, when my dry bottle started putting out a couple of drops, then more and more -- exactly what I needed to cleanse the lenses and place them in my eyes! It gave me a good lesson in the power of manifestation, faith, and trust that the universe provides what we need. And I am sure that there is a quantum physics principle in there which I am overlooking!


I had many reality shifting experiences when I lived in the Mojave Desert. One of the most memorable experiences took place in November of 1997. My husband and I were both in the Navy, stationed at the Naval Hospital in 29 Palms, California. It was Thanksgiving weekend and I wanted to drive to a Borders bookstore that was about one and a half hours away from home. It was the closest Borders store to us, and I wanted to buy my dad a copy of a book called Conversations with God. I had just finished reading it and felt a strong desire to share it with him. The only problem was that my husband and I had recently been having a string of bad luck with our vehicles breaking down. I was feeling very apprehensive that our one working vehicle, my husbands old Toyota Trooper, would break down on the way and leave us stranded. I couldn't seem to control my fear, and even as we were driving to Borders I voiced how much I would hate it if the truck broke down.

We got to the Borders without incident and I bought the book for my dad. On our way home, the Trooper started making strange noises, and as we pulled off the freeway into a gas station it died completely. We tried everything we could think of to get it running, but the Trooper showed absolutely no signs of life. We were still an hour away from home, and we knew it would cost us an arm and a leg to get a tow truck to take us. We thought we could have it towed to a nearby auto shop, but since it was Thanksgiving weekend, nothing was open. We couldn't even get ahold of a towtruck. We decided to walk to an ATM and get some money out so we could get a motel room for the night, and figure things out in the morning. Both of us had money in the bank and had used our ATM cards earlier in the day. Neither one of our cards would work at the ATM, so we went to another ATM, that ATM wouldn't work for us either. So we walked to yet another ATM, and still could not get any money out. My husband had $5.00 in his pocket.

I had duty at the Naval Hospital the next day, so I had to call and tell the people at the front desk that I wouldn't be able to make it to duty. Who should answer the phone but my nemesis, a woman who worked at the hospital that had acted spitefully towards me on numerous occasions. I had recently said many mean things about her to some of my friends because I felt she deserved it. When I had to explain my story to her on the phone, she acted as if she didn't believe a word of it. A few days later I heard that she had said mean things about me at the front desk, in front of a lot of people after she hung up the phone.

My husband and I had to sleep in the truck that night. It was cold and miserable, and time seemed to slow down. I had been rendered powerless, by a few small circumstances, like a broken car and ATM cards that wouldn't work. Yet I almost felt like I had created the whole situation. Instead of getting angry or depressed like I normally would have in a situation where I wasn't in "control", I felt an amazing sense of peace and well being. I decided to just allow things to happen and be present enough and calm enough to observe and participate in their happening. This was a new way of being that I hadn't experienced before, because I was just beginning to let go of a lot of limitting beliefs from my childhood.

I was sitting in the driver's seat when dawn finally came. I glanced at my husband to see if he was still asleep. He opened his eyes and said "Turn the key." I had a moment of doubt and was about to open my mouth to remind him that we had already turned the key a hundred times, but something in his eyes stopped me. I turned the key and the truck started! We drove home with no problems and there truly didn't seem to be anything wrong with the truck at all. Our ATM cards worked too.

I realized a lot of things because of this experience. I no longer allow myself to fear anything, because I know that I can easily create the very thing that I fear and find myself face to face with it! It made me think "If I can create the things I fear, I must be able to create the things I desire as well". I also learned that saying negative things about other people, whether "deserved" or not, isn't a good idea. I don't believe in karma, but I have experienced that life is circular.

(5) Reality Shifters Q & A

Q: Cynthia,
Recently I read some books about creative visualization (Gawain) and Anthony Robbins' books. It seems they conflict each other. Creative visualization advocates the power of mind and subconscious and reality can be created "easily and effortlessly" while Anthony says change is done via "making decisions and taking actions." Do you have any comments on these? It seems both have many followers.
-- Thai

A: Dear Thai,
Thanks for writing to me with this wonderful question! Visualization is one of the most essential components for making changes in a person's life, and visualization is required in order for a person to know that their reality is matching up in a good way with what they most desire. While techniques that focus primarily on visualization are centered around the third eye energy center (chakra) at the center of the forehead, other methods for creating change are often based on the more action-based lower energy centers of the solar plexus and gut. My recommendation to my clients is that they align all their energy centers so that their entire being is focused on the same goals, with their heads, hearts, and guts are all working together in unison. Sometimes there is trauma or internal dissonance in one or more of the primary energy centers, and so it's immensely helpful to find where such energy blocks are so that they can be healed, and a feeling of unity can flow through the person. The resulting feeling of having one's energy centers aligned and attuned like this is very empowering, uplifting and inspirational, and I find this unified approach brings the greatest feelings of happiness, prosperity and success for people.
lots of love,
-- Cynthia

(6) Reality Shifters Award Winner

I am proud to announce this month's winner of the Reality Shifting Award, for recognition of demonstrating consistent excellence in web site content and design, while helping people shift their reality in a positive direction:

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(7) Reviews that Shift Your Reality

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Consciousness & Healing

Consciousness & Healing
Integral Approaches to Mind-Body Medicine

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Raising Awareness of the Nature of Healing

CONSCIOUSNESS & HEALING is a remarkable collection of papers, articles and personal accounts of the current state of healing in the United States of America today. Sixty seven leading experts on health and healing share their most intimate, heartfelt, and analytical assessments of exactly what's going on in the field of mind-body medicine. Included inside this book is a companion DVD that features interviews with health professionals who share their vision for where the field of healing is headed. CONSCIOUSNESS & HEALING is the brain and love child of the Institute of Noetic Sciences (IONS), whose goal is to explore the frontiers of human consciousness. While the breadth and depth of this book defies description, it's safe to say that CONSCIOUSNESS & HEALING is currently the most comprehensive and up-to-date reference book on the subjects of complementary and alternative medicine, integral medicine, and mind-body medicine. Some of my favorite ideas from this book are the notion of what it really means to grow old gracefully, the return of prayer, and the idea of the patient as being inextricably intertwined in society and the environment. Now that increasing numbers of patients seek complementary and alternative forms of healing to the more traditional chemical and surgical procedures, there is a need for the healing community to establish a better vision of how to treat patients as people who matter, and whose thoughts and feelings affect their health. CONSCIOUSNESS & HEALING is a marvelous reference book that will stimulate discussion between healing professionals and people seeking healing, and help us all figure out what new model of health care we can best create.

Slow Down Diet

The Slow Down Diet
Eating for Pleasure, Energy, & Weight Loss
An 8-Week Breakthrough Program

by Marc David

How to Lose Weight through Increased Awareness

Nutritionist and weight loss expert Marc David asserts in THE SLOW DOWN DIET that some of our most dearly held beliefs about weight loss and dieting are woefully misguided. According to David, some of the biggest myths about eating are well-intentioned, yet contribute to ever-increasing girth. Starting with one of the most widely believed myths, "the best way to lose weight is to eat less and exercise more," David describes how people who attempt to follow that old advice so often end up frustrated. As David points out, "What you eat is only half the equation of good nutrition. How you eat is the other half." David describes the eight universal metabolizers that have the biggest effect on whether we gain or lose weight: relaxation, quality, awareness, rhythm, pleasure, thought, story, the sacred. We don't overeat because we lack willpower or put our metabolism into starvation mode, but when meals are deficient in one of the eight universal metabolizers. Food eaten in an anxious rush will trigger physiological stress responses that decrease our calorie burning capacity at the same time as we lose the value of the nutrients. At a time when the benefits of meditation are being formally acknowledged, it's refreshing to see a book that cites scientific sources that describe a metabolic power of relaxation. I love the way Marc David includes scientific research studies alongside case histories and exercises. Did you know that your gut has a brain? The enteric nervous system in your body has more nerve cells than your spinal column, at over one hundred million neurons, and it moves through nightly 90 minute cycles as if it were dreaming. Marc David asserts that the amazing differences between French and American food habits and weights are that while the French eat generally fattier foods, they slow down and savor long lunches as the biggest meals of their days... while Americans eat on the run in a constant state of stress. THE SLOW DOWN DIET proposes something that seems almost too good to be true... a way to savor meals and consistently lose weight doing so. By simply being "awake at the plate" and not doing something distracting or stressful while eating, but instead enjoying every moment of your meals... David assures us that we can lose weight.

(8) Join in the Discussion
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(9) Noteworthy Web Sites & Ezines

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